Times to Forget BUT Remember

Jim Rogers

So much has been said in the aftermaths of school tragedies, like the horrific shootings at Columbine High in Colorado that happened in April 1999. The talk has continued with other tragedies in Virginia, Oklahoma, and most recently Arizona, Colorado, again, and Wisconsin. There are many other school “incidents” that occur every day in schools and towns that don’t get national and international attention, incidents that disrupt towns and communities and change lives forever. In fact, the topic of youth violence is one of the most serious concerns in the world today. As a Parenting and Family Life Educator, I feel a responsibility to the community and to parents to make a few comments founded in research, education, and experience with a wide cross-section of families. Just what has caused youth violence and what can we do about it?

It’s clear that no single factor is the cause for the violence in our society. Certainly, no single gun law, or juvenile justice bill, or new security plan in schools with metal detectors, or the display of any religious signage, is the answer. But if I were pressed to give just one reason for the violence in our society, it would be, in a word, “adults.” The adults have caused pretty much all of the questionable pieces. Adults are usually the culprits and the youths are the victims. In our society, what children witness all around them is adults modeling a variety of ways of existing in the world.

In sports, athletes are taking drugs, cheating, fighting, and complaining. “Pro” wrestling fosters physical and verbal conflict, even if it’s just for entertainment purposes. More recently, something called Ultimate Fighting has taken the country by storm.  Grown men fight with almost bare fists and almost no holds barred in cages until one beats the other into submission. It’s ugly and scary. Most children under 8 years old find it difficult to separate reality from fantasy. They watch adults who are totally immersed in a battle between two or more adults while an audience screams and yells for blood. In hockey, fighting is an expected part of the game. Missing teeth is an honor. 

Arcades are filled with electronic games that depict people and non-people killing, shooting, beating, and tearing each other apart. Adults create and make those games available. Popular games of team competition that involve shooting and killing each other for fun are available, not only as video games, but in real life through the use of paintball guns. Laser battles and green laser “guns” are now creating havoc all over the roads and skies. Movies are certainly on the list of factors provided by adults, and not just the R rated ones. Underage children do get in to see these movies, no matter what the management says or what the rules are. They are often taken to such movies by their own parents. Even movies that are rated PG or G, so-called contemporary comedies, have inappropriate content for young children. In the Colorado late night premier showing of the 2012 installment of Batman, “The Dark Knight Rises”, pregnant women and families with small children, even infants, were in attendance to be exposed to the incredible sights and sounds of violence. Not to mention the unmentionable…the real gunfire and killing of twelve people and the wounding of many more. What about the abundance of G-rated animation films? They are filled with violence, beatings, mis-behavings, and ugly scary things that go bump in the night. Family fun.

Older teens are having babies and disposing of them in a variety of ways, and extended families encourage this behavior by taking care of the children themselves, taking away or decreasing the biological mother’s responsibility. There seem to be no repercussions or consequences for the teens’ actions. Adults are killing their children daily through abuse, neglect, and cold-blooded murder, and adults are beating and killing each other for a variety of irrational reasons.     

TV, not just the prime time shows, is loaded with negative ways of living life. Take a look at cartoons, teen shows, talk shows, music shows, court shows, soap operas, and the ever increasing “reality” shows. They are filled with mean-spirited people who act out in angry, devious, and evil ways. They teach revenge, rebellion, hatefulness, and terrible ways to solve problems. Legal people and school administrators and countless other authority figures respond with sarcasm. These experiences create fears and cynicism, and disillusionment for young people about the world in which they are expected to live.

Magazines offer teen fashions and images that can create eating disorders and depression in young people.  Why do such things get published? Because we buy them. 

Media, as in news shows and newspapers, are spending time and space reporting tragic crimes and seemingly insurmountable problems from down the street to the other side of the world. We cannot even venture a guess on how much fear and hopelessness this implants in our children and adults. What impact does this have on the choices children make? Preachers from the pulpits talk about forgiveness and understanding, then ignore or belittle some children they encounter, or they preach tolerance and inclusion but don’t live it. Religious leaders are actually being sentenced to jail for crimes against their own people, even children, and others are making claims that make them appear foolish and silly.

Adults brag about getting away with unpaid taxes, or being undercharged by a store and not pointing it out, or putting people down with hate language that would make the devil blush. There are people who model that the way to solve problems is to duke it out or sling more mud. There are adults who are negative about school and teachers, or who talk about how important school is yet never find the time to be involved in their child’s education process or any activities at the school. There are those who bad-mouth work, supervisors, and people who are different, and there are those who are just bad examples of getting along with all decent and lawful people.

There are government officials who lie, who philander, who act in most immature ways as they conduct the business of a country or community and who show and receive little respect. Politicians talk a lot about the plight of the poor and what a valuable resource our children are, but there are still areas of our country that are deplorably impoverished and our children are still looked upon as just problems that need to be summarily handled, controlled.   

Some businesses tend to squash working folks by keeping wages low, working people unreasonably long hours, and offering no medical help or any other benefits. These are circumstances that can lead to despair and criminal behavior.

There are parents who say don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t lie, cheat, or steal, and yet by their own actions, live a lie. There are parents who break promises; show disrespect for each other, for their parents, relatives, and neighbors; and who seldom, if ever, involve themselves and the family in any kind of community activity to help others.

Children don’t decide what clothes to wear. Adults do, by giving in to their pressures. Children don’t decide what movies to see. Adults do, by letting them go. Children don’t decide what TV to watch. Adults do, by letting the TV be the baby-sitter. There are TV sets in children’s bedrooms, and parents can’t find the off switch.

Parents of course have to give freedoms to build independence, but with freedoms come responsibilities.  Adults aren’t involved enough with the lives of their children in positive ways. We react a lot when we have to, but we don’t respond. We have Response-Disability, but what we have to have is Response-Ability.

All of this, as you know, is about role modeling. We do whatever we want to do, what gives us pleasure, what feeds our self-centeredness, or what makes money.  Children simply copy us until they are adults themselves. Then children copy them.  It’s a cycle. 

Remember this?  Home is where the start is. Many of these ills could have initially been addressed in the home by the parents or the caregivers. When each adult commits to live a better, more informed, and caring life, and pass these values along to young people, then problems of violence in this country will begin to decrease. When we bring back a sense of individual responsibility to family and community, creating opportunity for everybody, we will be able to start reducing the violence and crime that we fear will destroy us. Legislation will not change morals. Posting the Ten Commandments on a wall will not likely change students’ lives. However, living the Ten Commandments or any other rules of decent behavior just might cause some positive change. In order for children to want to live by any excellent guideline, they have to see that their leaders hold the guideline in high regard.

A past president had hopes for “a kinder, gentler nation.”  That’s the only way we will ever turn the tide: one person at a time, from the inside out.  Children need us to lead the way.  That’s why we must hang in there and

         Don’t lose heart!


There Is Violence in Society

Jim Rogers

A few years ago, I received a statement and a set of questions asking for my responses from a local newspaper journalist on the topic of violence in society.  After careful reflection as to whether or not I should comment, I decided to share some of my thoughts since I felt, and still feel, that the topic is of great interest to parents and families. As I was in the process of rereading and editing this entry, two other horrific acts of senseless violence have just taken place; the July 2012 tragedy in Aurora, Colorado, and another, seemingly of religious nature, in Wisconsin. Lone young men, one excessively armed in a warrior uniform, [and the other in aggressive tattooed markings,] attacked the audience attending a midnight premier showing of “The Dark Knight Rises” and the second man-a gathering of attendees at a Sikh Temple; the latest sadness of mass violence referenced in my earlier essay for April.  So this piece on violence is even more timely as the acts appear to be increasing rather than decreasing. I’ve duplicated a version of the question-and-answer session for you in this special section on violence in society as October’s offering because of the prevalence of commercial and mischievous violence that tends to occur around Halloween time.


Question: Parents are barraged with news of school shootings, Internet predators, children snatched from their beds while they sleep, politicians, respected church and sports people preying on young people, etc. With all of that, we, the public, are asking these questions: Are parents raising their children differently today than the way they were parented because of increased violence against children, or are today’s parents just more aware of the violence because of more thorough media coverage?

Answer: Most parents are definitely raising their children differently today, but not because of the violence, since we have always had isolated occurrences of violence. It’s the other way around: The epidemic of violence is being caused by the way we parent and raise our children and the weakness of homes and families. We are now a larger population; there is more of everything, including unhealthy people, identified mental illness, reactions to being a member of the “have-nots” or disenfranchised population, and the seemingly uncaring power wielding of those in the “haves” population (a gap that seems to be getting wider and wider), and all of these incidents can be reported almost instantaneously to the entire world, especially the “newsworthy” ones.      

We are such a reactionary society that even after a violent episode hits our neighborhoods, it doesn’t take a long time for a return to normalcy and becoming close to complacent again. We hurry to “fix” the symptoms of deeper problems, ignoring the root causes.

The media definitely needs to be more responsible and accountable, both entertainment and news media sectors. There are so many media outlets today that are all competing for audiences to increase their profits and staying power. Not only do they simply report a news event, but they also banter it all day and night long, making it much more important than it truly needs to be, and some media actually create news from the news.  Look at what the media has done to two young women not long ago who battled  internal demons of some kind that created for them sad and confused lives, and the media uses them to sell themselves, calling it news. Those were specific woman at that time, and by now there could have been many more individuals who have been “used” by the media. I also believe that media exposure can and has created violent events by unhealthy persons wanting the notoriety the coverage provides. Media fuels terrorism. Many perpetrators live and die for the publicity they get. Media also fuels social violence, from the images of “professional” wrestling to “in your face” athletics, juvenile sports, players, coaches and fans, to Spike TV fist fighting and macho stereotypes. Is it any wonder that our children and our adults accept and practice violent behavior as “the way it is?”

We have changed the way we parent for lots of reasons. Mostly it’s due to corporate control and money/survival driven lives. We live in a 365/24/7 world. It is always open for business and we all find ourselves running to just keep up. Parents spend less time in the home, less time with children, less time developing vital relationships with their spouses and sons and daughters and community, less time for self-reflection, and less time for personal growth and learning. Family members all drag themselves home at the end of the day, and it’s sometimes all they can do to be civil to each other. Their duties are endless, and the times for just being together in good and healthy ways have greatly diminished. Too much parenting today is done on the run, hurling snatches of guidance and direction at their confused and needy offspring with few interactions, and even those are often not well thought out. Parents too often “react” to their children’s needs, with what I call “response-disability,” rather than being effectively responsive to their needs, which is “response-ability.” We are often too harsh, insensitive, too rigid,  inconsistent, impatient, and not willing to stop, listen, and attempt to understand and guide. We don’t even try to develop true relationships with each other; we just order, dictate, command, criticize, complain, and talk – all the traits that undermine the purpose of effective parenting, which is to prepare a child for adulthood. How do we think we get to be adults? We adults teach our children how and who to be. Who do you want your children to be? What kind of lives do you want for them? We are creating childhood memories for adults now. What kind of memories do you want them to have?

Question: Has this increased awareness bred paranoid parents at risk for creating a generation of paranoid youngsters? Or are parents justified in their vigilance?

Answer: Paranoia is running wild...television, motion pictures, cell phones, and Internet media help create it and fuel it. Electronic media is always there and available and attacks most of our senses: sight, sound, and emotions. It can dramatically tap into our imaginations and fears in an instant, and the image can remain, maybe forever. The print media is also guilty, but we can put it down, read it in small doses, or not read it at all; there is very little visual and no auditory impact, the emotion has to be created by the reader. You don’t find many teenagers sneaking around to buy a newspaper. Mass media gives us something new to fear and worry about almost daily, even hourly. If we allow ourselves to be a “regular” habitual user, there is no way that we cannot feel anxious, stressed, frustrated, worried, depressed, and fearful when we try to close our eyes at night. It is all too much, too constant, and too negative. We are not only raising a new generation of paranoid children, but anxious, hopeless, aimless, and depressed ones, as well. We cannot possibly be our most effective selves if we are always looking over our shoulders or feeling like the sky is going to fall any minute. And if we aren’t our most effective selves, then we are not giving our best as a parent, a spouse, a child, a worker, a citizen.

Question: We have parents equipping their young children with cell phones as a way to have immediate communication. Is this a good parenting tactic or are parents using today’s electronics to babysit their kids and avoid having to spend time with them?

Answer: Just like television, computers, video games, air rifles, sling shots, and other potentially harmful popular commodities, the cell phone is not bad in and of itself, but rather it can have good and bad consequences; it all depends on how it is used. Too much of anything is too much. Proper, informed, purposeful uses are all good. Cell phones are incredible tools for good, but they can be misused and can be tools for illegal, inconsiderate, and obnoxious behaviors.  When so called social media can be used as a learning, gathering place for children to exchange ideas and opinions, it’s good. Used as a controlling, bullying, gossiping, and spying tool, or as Betty White called it “an awful waste of time,” it can cause major problems. Many parents use many commodities, schedules, lack of time, and other distractions to avoid spending time with their children. Too many parents would rather be some place else. Being with our children in positive, helpful ways can be time-consuming, hard, frustrating, and boring. So can going to the dentist, but they are both necessary parts of our healthful lives. Nothing can replace the genuine “unhurried” time that we give our children. Nothing.

Question: How should parents handle the bad news of the world (school shootings, Internet predators) when discussing this with their children? What’s your advice for how to have that discussion?

Answer: We cannot raise our children in a vacuum. We cannot pretend that bad things don’t exist.  If we don’t inform them, someone else will. Of course, they will be informed by others as well as parents anyway, but parents have to manage the information and relate it to how that family believes, what it values and how it feels about any given subject in the neighborhood and world. Parents have to design, manage, modify, and execute rules, as well as behavior expectations, discipline, structure, routines, and how their family adapts to and lives in and with the world. There are many positive examples of living in this wonderful world, and they need to be pointed out and emphasized. Help children understand that life is not what they see on television or in the movies. Help them sort out the difference between reality and make believe, if we can do that ourselves! Depending on the age of the children, be open and honest with them. Tell them what you think they need to know based on their age and maturity level. Answer their questions, but don’t elaborate unnecessarily. Talk about certain events minimally. Try not to make it fill the day or all of your time. Try to maintain normal schedules and routines. Above all, maintain your own cool and maturity about the events.  Don’t go around all day hand-wringing and bemoaning the state of the world. Check your judgments, your reactions, your criticisms, and your conclusions.  Remember that you are role modeling and teaching your children how to handle emotions, how to think, how to consider, how to wonder, and how to grow in self-assurance and confidence. The more strength and courage you show, the better the children will grow into those healthy places, and then they will be able to handle the inevitable events that will greet and bash them in their present and future everyday living of life. And most of all…

Don’t lose heart!


Cold Versus Flu

What is the difference between a cold and the flu?

The flu and the common cold are both respiratory illnesses but they are caused by different viruses. Because these two types of illnesses have similar flu-like symptoms, it can be difficult to tell the difference between them based on symptoms alone. In general, the flu is worse than the common cold, and symptoms such as fever, body aches, extreme tiredness, and dry cough are more common and intense. Colds are usually milder than the flu. People with colds are more likely to have a runny or stuffy nose. Colds generally do not result in serious health problems, such as pneumonia, bacterial infections, or hospitalizations.

How can you tell the difference between a cold and the flu?

Because colds and flu share many symptoms, it can be difficult (or even impossible) to tell the difference between them based on symptoms alone. Special tests that usually must be done within the first few days of illness can be carried out, when needed to tell if a person has the flu.

What are the symptoms of the flu versus the symptoms of a cold?

In general, the flu is worse than the common cold, and symptoms such as fever, body aches, extreme tiredness, and dry cough are more common and intense. Colds are usually milder than the flu. People with colds are more likely to have a runny or stuffy nose. Colds generally do not result in serious health problems, such as pneumonia, bacterial infections, or hospitalizations.


School Breakfasts That Are Sure to Please

Elizabeth Jason

We all know how important it is to “break the fast”, especially for children. A good breakfast is proven to help children with their attitude and school work. You don’t have to spend lots of money going through the local drive-thru for breakfast, or spend hours in the kitchen coming up with something nutritious. Try a few of these, they can even be eaten in the car in a rush!


 Have you thought about making your own sundae? Set out yogurt, granola, and a variety of fruits and nuts.  


Try a yogurt and fruit smoothie, with some flaxseed mixed in.


 Pizza for breakfast: What kid doesn't love pizza? Having it for breakfast makes it seem extra special. Toast a regular English muffin. Add scrambled eggs, veggies and Parmesan cheese. Put under broiler just to melt cheese.

 Toast a cinnamon bagel. Add cream cheese. Top with dried fruit and nuts.

Bran muffin and yogurt topped with berries

 Smoothies: We all probably have a favorite smoothie recipe too. If not try this. In a blender combine 1 cup yogurt any flavor with 1/2 cup fruit juice. Add some frozen berries .You can also try add protein powder or wheat germ for even better energy. You can also use milk, frozen blueberries, strawberries, or other frozen fruit!


 PBJ and B: Peanut butter, jelly and banana on whole wheat, on a bagel or English muffin. You can even use a frozen waffle, warmed of course with the peanut butter and jelly.

 Trail Mix: No need to buy this expensive stuff. Make your own. Put any of the following into a baggy, shake and serve, nuts, seeds, dried fruit, granola, cereal, small candies, marshmallows, small crackers, pretzels. Experiment and see what they like!

 Leftovers: If your child likes beans, rice and meat from the night before, warm it up and let them have it for breakfast, nothing wrong with that.


Bowl of oatmeal with blueberries (fresh, frozen, or dried), made with milk, sprinkled with wheat germ.


Whole wheat tortilla with scrambled egg, cheese, salsa. Canned drained fruit with lowfat cream cheese works great too. Or any leftovers from the night before wrapped in a whole wheat tortilla.


Whole-grain ready-to-eat cereal topped with sliced banana and yogurt

 Top Ten Nutritional Tips for Children
Jason Horsley


With video games, TV, computers, poor meal choices and the internet, children are facing a health crisis of their own. Children as a whole are less healthy than they used to be in times past. Diabetes--thought to be a mainly adult disease in the past has been on the rise among children. An obese child usually translates into an obese adult, which can lead to all sorts of health problems in the future, such as high blood pressure and an increased chance of suffering from a heart attack or stroke.

With this in mind, eFitness for Life has put together a top ten list of nutritional tips for children.

1. Set a good example and keep your child active. Children learn by example, and if their parent is healthy and active, chances are they are too. Make activity fun for your child, and enroll them in as many sporting activities as you can afford.

2. Make sure your child eats their breakfast. Breakfast really is the most important meal of the day. It will give them the fuel they need throughout the day. Make sure you guide them towards making healthy breakfast choices, such as oatmeal or whole grain cereals.

3. Keep your child hydrated, especially if it’s hot outside or they’re engaged in a sporting activity.

4. Make sure your child gets enough protein and carbohydrates in their diets. Foods that are good sources of protein and carbohydrates include fish, poultry, meat, cheese, milk, beans or legumes.

5. Provide healthy snacks after exercise. Instead of handing them a chocolate bar, hand them a piece of fruit instead.

6. Provide variety in their diet. If your child is eating the same things day after day, chances are that they’re missing out on some nutritional building blocks. Besides that, they will get bored with their diet. Instead, have them help you choose meals that are healthy for the entire family. This will help them make better choices in the future.

7. See a nutritionist. They can help a great deal when it comes to planning meals for you and your growing child.

8. Try to make home cooked meals as opposed to eating out. Fast food is generally not a good way to instill good eating habits in your child.

9. Throw out the soda and limit the juices. Soda is jam packed with calories and juices are typically full of sugars. Instead, give them water.

10. Teach your child about proper portion sizes. Most people eat way too much food at each meal, which contributes to massive weight gain in both adults and children.

Nutrition is important for both children and adults. Together you can make your house a healthier environment, where everyone can reap the benefits. Don’t allow poor nutrition and inactivity to ruin your child’s health. Together we can make a difference that will last a lifetime.

For those that need a little extra direction or motivation, visit eFitness for Life now and see how our online fitness and nutrition coaching programs can help you make the most of your investment, in the shortest possible time, with the greatest return. All done online! All done with certified coaches! Truly, the Future of Fitness! Stop by today and we will be happy to build your starter programs to ensure you learn to live longer, healthier lives.



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The Children's Health Minute

Childhood Obesity

Childhood obesity is a growing epidemic in the United States.

Children who are overweight or obese are at greater risk for diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, sleep disorders and low self-esteem. Here are a few tips to help keep your child healthy:

*  Give your child water instead of sweetened beverages, such as juices, sodas or sports drinks. These drinks are higher in calories and lower in nutrients, and can lead to weight gain.

*  Offer your child a variety of healthy foods, such as fruits and vegetables. Let him decide which ones he wants to eat.

*  Set an example by eating healthy foods, too.

*  Schedule meals and snacks at regular times every day because kids do better with a routine.

*  Turn off the TV during meals and snacks to avoid distractions.

Limit TV, video game and computer use to less than two hours a day. These activities often replace physical activity and can lead to snacking. Instead, encourage your child to bike, swim and play outdoors.

For more information, go to www.choa.org.




Publishers Note: This is a profile of Jim Rogers. Jim has been a contributing writer for 16 years. Thank you Jim for giving your time and talents for the past 16 years, since the start of Parent News.

Happy Anniversary!

  By Peggy New

  Jim Rogers encouraged and helped the original owner of Parent News to start this monthly magazine dedicated to parents and children. He continues today, after 15 years, to write a column educating, encouraging and exhorting parents. He notes that almost every job in our culture requires a period of training, education and evaluation; except being a parent. Yet raising a child to be a productive member of society, happy, well-adjusted and adept, requires nothing more than conception and birth. Nearly all parents will flounder at some point.

  As a parent and family life educator, Jim sees both the best and the worst in parenting. He facilitates a class called Parents Care that runs for 10 weeks (through DSS), and helps attendees begin to see themselves and how they were parented. Questions are asked, such as “what does love look like to you?” that help start the process of breaking destructive cycles. Jim believes ignorance is the biggest problem in the lives of a family. If someone has never been exposed to positive parenting, or been taught to be an effective parent, it is difficult to be one. Other topics are attachment disorders, un-nurtured adults, what does love feel/look like, how do love and limits work together, and what makes us “us.” Finding answers can and does change lives and families.

  Jim’s original career began in radio, television, advertising and broadcast/media productions. A graduate of Chapel Hill, NC with a BA degree in Communications and minors in English and Drama, he has lived and worked in Charlotte, New York, Atlanta and Los Angeles. In 1991 he became concerned with what was happening to children and attended Antioch University, Marina Del Rey, Ca in a masters program in clinical psychology with emphasis on child development and psychotherapy. In 1994 he earned his Master of Education, Early Childhood from Coastal Carolina University, Conway, SC. He returned to the Carolinas and worked at Coastal Carolina University for 13 years, where he met and married Dr. Sally Hair. Although both are retired from CCU, they remain active in their areas of interest and expertise. Jim has 3 grown children and 4 grandsons; of whom is most proud.

  Jim is a Certified Family Life Educator, CFLE, through the National Council on Family Relations and has certification as a Parenting instructor through the Center for the Improvement of Child Caring, Los Angeles, CA. Currently, Jim is owner/director in a company that facilitates family enrichment programs called still learning, inc. When Jim does workshops for DSS, CASA, churches, small groups, he stresses the 4 keys to effective parenting: are you ready to be a parent - healthy, dependable, reliable; what is the relationship between caregivers – do they work together for the welfare of the child; is the home warm and nurturing – responsive to everyone’s needs; and finally the parent(s) must have knowledge.

  It is this knowledge that drives Jim to write and teach and look for opportunities to help adults become better parents. Knowledge of how the human character develops has vastly increased in the past decades. We know more of how the brain works in children, adolescents, adults; the woman’s movement re-defined a mother’s role – but not necessarily the male role in a family. It can be, and usually is, confusing. Most of the time, people simply muddle through the first 18 years of a child, hoping for the best, and simply coping with the reality of another human being. And while there certainly isn’t any such thing as “the perfect parent,” every parent can become better at their “job.”

  For more information on workshops that Jim and still learning, inc. offer visit his website at www.stilllearning.org or email Jim at jimrogers@sc.rr.com.  You will also find his insights each month in Parent Magazine published by Dale Publishing (www.parentnewsmagazine.com). Knowledge is the key that opens the door to positive parenting. Find it, practice it and enjoy the results.

White Bean Chicken Chili

Patty Urbanowitz

1 medium onion, chopped

2 garlic cloves, minced

2 tablespoon olive oil

Two 15-ounce cans Cannellini or white beans, drained

2 tablespoons flour...

4 cups diced, cooked chicken or turkey

1 cup corn

One 4.5-ounce can diced green chilies

Two 14.5-ounce cans chicken broth

1 teaspoon cumin

1 teaspoon chili powder

1/2 teaspoon oregano

Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper


Sauté onion and garlic in olive oil in a large pot over medium high heat until onion is tender. Puree one can of drained beans and set aside. Stir the flour into the onion mixture and cook for one minute. Add chicken, corn, chilies, broth, cumin, chili powder, oregano, beans, reserved bean puree, and one cup water. Season with salt and pepper. Reduce heat and simmer for 30 minutes. Makes about twelve 1-cup servings


Per Serving: Calories 169; Protein 16 g; Fat 7 g; Carbs 10 g; Sugar 1 g; Sodium 309 mg



Magic Power Aphrodisiac Coffee


By Dr. David W. Powers


Dr. David W. Powers is the lead Cultural Architect at Powers Court Enterprises and Ocean Breeze Awnings & More. You can find him online at www.drdavidpowers.com. He used the Magic Power Coffee and loved the results. So did his wife.

  I joined the Facebook fan page for an Atlanta coffee shop a short time back. I join a lot of coffee-related pages. It’s a great way to keep up with the current coffee trends and meet “authentic” coffee drinkers all over the world. Kaydene Morgan contacted me through the group and asked if I’d ever heard of Magic Power Coffee. I hadn’t.

            There are a lot of coffee-centric health supplement products out there. I’ve often seen them advertised as weight loss products. This is the first time I’ve seen one that is said to have sex enhancement properties. That’s right, sex enhancing coffee. It is advertised as the world’s first aphrodisiac beverage. The website actually states that “it’s like someone dropped two Viagra in a Starbucks latte!”

            Morgan sent me some samples to try out and review. Thankfully, my wife was eager to help me review them. I did wonder though, prior to trying the samples, just how much I should reveal about the efficacy of the product and my testing. So I don’t reveal any of the seedy details in a family-oriented magazine, I think I’ll err on the side of caution and mainly just talk about the facts. For the seedy details, you can check out the video of my testing at…just kidding.

            There are some really interesting effects used in the results section on the website. I’ll just list a few of the adjectives and let your imagination fill in the rest- harder, increased, more, greater, powerful, and multiple are just a few. The list has columns for both men and women, so don’t think this is like most other supplements for men only. It’s an equal opportunity provider.

            I tried the coffee two ways. First, I tried it simply as the instant coffee mix by itself. It is premixed with creamer and sweetener so it tasted as good as any store brand instant coffee I’ve had. I’ve never been much for the taste of instant coffee, but it wasn’t too bad. If you drink instant, you won’t notice the difference. The second time I tried it, I mixed it in with some fresh ground Tanzanian beans and drank it that way.

            Aside from instant coffee, the mix is supplemented with herbal goodies. Horny goat weed is the primary supplement. The name alone suggests it usefulness. It has been known the world over as a cure for sexual impotence and used to increase fertility. The active ingredient is actually the same one in Viagra. Goji berries are also used. They are known primarily for their enhancement of immune system function and as a whole body harmonizer. Imagine having all your body systems working together in sync and you’ll understand the main use of the goji berry in Chinese medicine. The last primary ingredient is ginseng. Think about it, if the coffee works, you’ll need the increased energy.

            The Magic Power Coffee is not just a product. Like many popular nutritional supplements, it’s also part of a multi-level marketing company that you could sign up for as well. I didn’t check out the compensation plan very much, as I was mainly checking out the product. There is plenty of information on the website though, if this is something you might be interested in as well. Like many products, if you plan on using it regularly, it’s usually cheaper to join and use your membership to buy your own personal stash.

            For me, I would definitely say that the product worked. I like the fact that its properties are supposed to be helpful for both men and women. Aside from regular use (which would be best case scenario), I could see this product being very useful for big nights like a regular date night, your anniversary, birthday, or every Wednesday. Whatever works best for you.

            Check out the website at www.goodlovincafe.com. If you’re interested, give Morgan a call or send her an e-mail. I’m sure she’d be happy to answer any questions you might have.

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The Children's Health Minute


Childhood Obesity

Childhood obesity is a growing epidemic in the United States. In Georgia alone, two out of every five third-graders are

either overweight or obese.

Children who are overweight or obese are at greater risk for diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, sleep disorders and low self-esteem. Here are a few tips to help keep your child healthy:

Give your child water instead of sweetened beverages, such as juices, sodas or sports drinks. These drinks are higher in calories and lower in nutrients, and can lead to weight gain.

Offer your child a variety of healthy foods, such as fruits and vegetables. Let him decide which ones he wants to eat.

Set an example by eating healthy foods, too.

Schedule meals and snacks at regular times every day because kids do better with a routine.

Turn off the TV during meals and snacks to avoid distractions.

Limit TV, video game and computer use to less than two hours a day. These activities often replace physical activity and can lead to snacking. Instead, encourage your child to bike, swim and play outdoors.

For more information, go to www.choa.org.



 SIDS Awareness

In an effort to educate parents and caregivers on sleep safety for baby, October was designated as SIDS

(Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) Awareness Month. One of the leading educators in the area of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is Halo Innovations, a company started by a SIDS dad who utilized his engineering expertise to study infant sleep and to develop products that help parents create a safe sleep environment for baby.  Today, this small Minnesota company works with over 350 hospitals nationwide where the Halo SleepSack wearable blanket is utilized both in hospital

as well as in take home programs to encourage parents to practice safe sleep at home.


 Ten simple safe sleep tips for all who care for baby:


Back is Best for Baby's Safest Sleep...

Place your baby to sleep on his or her back at naptime and night time

Use a safety approved crib with a firm, tight-fitting mattress

Remove all soft bedding and toys from your baby's sleep area (this includes loose blankets, bumpers and positioners)

Use a SleepSack™ wearable blanket to replace loose blankets in your baby's crib

DO NOT put your baby to sleep on any soft surface (sofas, chairs, water beds, quilts, sheep skins, etc.)

Room sharing is safer than bed sharing

DO NOT dress your baby too warmly for sleep; keep room temperature between 68-72 degrees fahrenheit

DO NOT let anyone smoke around your baby or be in a room where someone has recently smoked

Educate relatives, baby sitters and other caregivers about these important safety tips

Tummy time is important for babies while they are awake and being supervised. Place

your baby on his or her tummy for playtime to help strengthen their upper body muscles




 Fire Prevention

Submitted by Children's Healthcare of Atlanta

Install Smoke Alarms

  • Install smoke alarms on every floor of your home, including the basement. 

  • Make sure smoke alarms are installed in all sleeping areas and outside all sleeping areas.

  • Test your smoke alarms monthly.

  • Check manufacturer's instructions for battery replacement requirements.

  • Replace the alarms every ten years.

Maintain Your Heating Equipment

  • Have your furnace inspected by a professional technician annually and change the filter every year.

  • Supplemental heaters (space heaters, for example), should be unplugged or turned off while your family is asleep.

  • Move supplemental heaters at least 3 feet away from bedding, curtains, furniture and other flammables.

  • Do not burn anything but logs in your fireplace. Put a screen on your fireplace to protect the room from sparks. Once a year, have your chimney cleaned and inspected.

 Electrical Safety

  • Adding extension cords or adaptors to outlets can overload circuits and cause fire.

  • Don't run extension cords under rugs, over sharp objects, or behind radiators.

  • Replace or repair worn or frayed appliance cords and extension cords.

Kitchen Fire Prevention

  • Keep towels, paper, and clothing away from the burners on the stove.

  • Keep a fire extinguisher in your kitchen and know how to use it.

  • Use only microwave safe containers in your microwave.

  • Stay in the kitchen when you are cooking.

  • If there is a grease fire, put a lid on it. Turn off the burner and let it cool.  Water will make it spread



Allergy Tips


 The American Academy of Pediatrics Guide to Your Child's Allergies and Asthma.


Some allergies are easy to identify by the pattern of symptoms that invariably follows exposure to a particular substance. But others are more subtle, and may masquerade as other conditions. Here are some common clues that could lead you to suspect your child may have an allergy.

* Recurrent red, itchy, dry, sometime scaly rashes in the creases of the skin, wrists, and ankles.

* Repeated or chronic cold-like symptoms - that last more than a week or two, or develop at about the same time every year. These could include a runny nose, nasal stuffiness, sneezing and throat clearing.

* Nose rubbing, sniffling, snorting, sneezing and itchy, runny eyes.

* Itching or tingling sensations in the mouth and throat. Itchiness is not usually a complaint with a cold, but it is the hallmark of an allergy problem.

* Coughing, wheezing, difficulty breathing, and other respiratory symptoms. Coughing may be an isolated symptom; increases at night or with exercise are suspicious for asthma.

* Repeated ear or sinus infections or persistent middle ear fluid associated with nasal symptoms

* Recurrent episodes of abdominal pain following ingestion of a particular food.


* Dust (contains dust mites, particles from other allergens such as pollen, mold and animal dander as well as irritants).

* Pollen (trees, grasses, weeds)

* Fungi (including molds too small to be seen with the naked eye)

* Furry animals (cats, dogs, guinea pigs, gerbils, rabbits, and other pets)

* Latex (household articles such as rubber gloves and toys, balloons)

* Foods (cow's milk, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, soy, wheat, fish and shellfish)


* Many children are allergic to pollen and mold, both of which are found everywhere outdoors and cannot be completely avoided.

* It's helpful to use air conditioners, where possible, to reduce exposure to pollen in both your home and your car.

Remain indoors when lawn is mowed.  Avoid playing in fields of tall grass if allergic to grass.  Outdoor mold levels are highest in the spring and late summer, particularly around areas of decaying vegetation. Children with allergies to molds should avoid playing in piles of dead leaves in the fall. Indoor exposure can occur from mildew as a result of water

intrusion problems or elevated levels of moisture (e.g. bathrooms, use of humidifiers)

* Dust mites congregate where moisture is retained and food for them (human skin scales) is plentiful. They are

especially numerous in upholstered furniture, bedding and rugs. Padded furnishings such as mattresses, box springs,

pillows and cushions should be encased in allergen-proof, zip-up covers, which are available through catalogs and

specialized retailers. Wash linens weekly and other bedding such as blankets, every 2 to 3 weeks in hot water (minimum temperature to kill mites is 130 degrees, so care must be taken to avoid scald burns when washing bedding if young children are present in the home). Pillows should be replaced every 2 to 3 years.


Your child's allergy treatment should start with your pediatrician, who may refer you to a pediatric allergy specialist for additional evaluations and treatments.

* Antihistamines - Ones taken by mouth can help with itchy watery eyes, runny nose and sneezing, as well as itchy skin and hives. Some types may cause drowsiness. Nose sprays that contain an antihistamine are also available and can be helpful, but should not be used more than three days.

* Decongestants - Help with stuffy nose.

* Nasal Corticosteroids - Highly effective for allergy symptom prevention and are widely used to stop chronic symptoms. Safe to use in children over long periods of time. Must be used daily.

* Allergy Immunotherapy - Immunotherapy, or allergy shots, may be recommended to reduce your child's sensitivity to airborne allergens. Not every allergy problem can or needs to be treated with allergy shots, but treatment of respiratory allergies to pollen, dust mites, cat and dog dander, and outdoor molds is often successful if avoidance and

medications are not effective.  Allergy shots help decrease the need for daily medication.

* Ask your doctor about additional therapies.


* ALLERGIES (molds, pollen, dust mites, cockroaches, animals--especially cats and dogs)


* INFECTIONS (viral respiratory infections, colds, sinus infections)


* INDOOR AIR POLLUTION (aerosol sprays, cooking fumes, odors, smoke: cigarettes/tobacco, wood fires,

wood-burning stoves)



* Steroid creams are very effective. When used sparingly and at the lowest strength that does the job, they are very safe.

*  Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory creams or ointments can be used for itching and redness and decrease the need for steroid creams.

* Antihistamine medication may be prescribed to relieve the itching, and help break the itch-scratch cycle.

* Long-sleeved sleepwear may also help prevent nighttime scratching.

* Soaps containing perfumes and deodorants may be too harsh for children's sensitive skin. 

* Use laundry products that are free of dyes and perfumes and double-rinse clothes, towels and bedding.

* Lukewarm soaking baths are good ways to treat the dry skin of eczema. Gently pat your child dry after the bath

to avoid irritating the skin with rubbing. Then, liberally apply moisturizing cream right away.

* Food allergies play a role in about 35 percent of children with moderate to severe atopic dermatitis.  Milk, egg, wheat, peanut, and soy account for over 90% of food allergies in children.

* Launder new clothes thoroughly before your child wears them. Avoid fabric softener.

(c) 2008 - American Academy of Pediatrics


Abstracted from the American Academy of Pediatrics Guide to Your Child's Allergies and Asthma.  Available from AAP Bookstore For more information on allergies and asthma, visit the AAP Section on Allergy and Immunology web site at www.aap.org/sections/allergy



When Your Child Is Bullied

* Help your child learn how to respond by teaching your child how to:

1. Look the bully in the eye.

2. Stand tall and stay calm in a difficult situation.

3. Walk away.

* Teach your child how to say in a firm voice.

1. "I don't like what you are doing."

2. "Please do NOT talk to me like that."

3. "Why would you say that?"

* Teach your child when and how to ask for help.

* Encourage your child to make friends with other children.

* Support activities that interest your child.

* Alert school officials to the problems and work with them on solutions.

* Make sure an adult who knows about the bullying can watch out for your child's safety and well-being when you

cannot be there.

When Your Child Is the Bully

* Be sure your child knows that bullying is never OK.

* Set firm and consistent limits on your child's aggressive behavior.

* Be a positive role mode. Show children they can get what they want without teasing, threatening or hurting someone.

* Use effective, non-physical discipline, such as loss of privileges.

* Develop practical solutions with the school principal, teachers, counselors, and parents of the children your child has bullied.

When Your Child Is a Bystander

* Tell your child not to cheer on or even quietly watch bullying.

* Encourage your child to tell a trusted adult about the bullying.

* Help your child support other children who may be bullied. Encourage your child to include these children in activities.

* Encourage your child to join with others in telling bullies to stop.


* During middle childhood, youngsters need supervision. A responsible adult should be available to get them ready

and off to school in the morning and watch over them after school until you return home from work.

* Children approaching adolescence (11- and 12-year-olds) should not come home to an empty house in the afternoon unless they show unusual maturity for their age.

* If alternate adult supervision is not available, parents should make special efforts to supervise their children from a distance. Children should have a set time when they are expected to arrive at home and should check in with a

 neighbor or with a parent by telephone.

* If you choose a commercial after-school program, inquire about the training of the staff. There should be a high

staff-to-child ratio, and the rooms and the playground should be safe.


* Create an environment that is conducive to doing homework. Youngsters need a permanent work space in their

bedroom or another part of the home that offers privacy.

* Set aside ample time for homework.

* Establish a household rule that the TV set stays off during homework time.

* Supervise computer and internet use.

* Be available to answer questions and offer assistance, but never do a child's homework for her.

* Take steps to help alleviate eye fatigue, neck fatigue and brain fatigue while studying. It may be helpful to close the books for a few minutes, stretch, and take a break periodically when it will not be too disruptive.

* If your child is struggling with a particular subject, and you aren't able to help her yourself, a tutor can be a good solution. Talk it over with your child's teacher first.

(c) 2009 - American Academy of Pediatrics



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